Grief Makes You Crazy

“I should have known…”: Understanding Hindsight Bias in Grief

People have a natural tendency to sift through the ashes of tragedy in search of explanations. To quote Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Viktor E. Frankl, “Man’s main concern is not to gain pleasure or to avoid pain but rather to see a meaning in his life.” The search for sense in the seemingly senseless is …

Coping with the Conflicting Emotions of Grief

How are you feeling today? Yes…you. It’s a simple question. You’re asked a version of it every day. You know how to respond. Keep it simple. Choose a one to three word answer. Bonus points if you choose something neutral-to-positive that doesn’t require a follow-up question. Don’t say anything awkward or concerning (unless you’re certain …

Thinking About Thinking (and Grief)

We have talked many a time here about how grief can make you feel a bit like you’re losing it.  Emotions overwhelm you, thoughts and feelings are running amok, it can feel like your brain was highjacked.  Some days you feel like your brain is somehow disconnected from yourself, you are feeling, thinking, and doing …

The Uninvited Guest: Making Room for Grief

“Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.” ~ Brené Brown, The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto On the day your loved one died, or perhaps the day when you realized your loved one was …

Anxiety in Grief

Think of something that scares you. Perhaps it’s the thought of giving a speech in front of a crowd, taking a test, asking your crush out on a date, or jumping out of an airplane. Even if you’re mostly fearless, everyone’s got something. Now think about the thoughts and sensations you typically experience right before doing this thing that …

Eight Times Grief Made Me Feel Ugly, Mean, or Crazy

Society has created this narrative that idealizes the idea of grieving with grace.  You have probably seen it in the movies, in books, and subtly being reinforced when people compliment you on how strong you are and how you are handling things with such poise.  Poise . . . blech, I had a slight gag …


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