Grief Makes You Crazy

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Feeling Nothing During Grief: The disorienting experience of emotional numbness

There are so many things one can feel in this life – anger, joy, jealousy, love, shame, happiness, embarrassment, amusement, sadness, euphoria, frustration.  The roller coaster of emotion whips over high peaks, spins, and dips over and over and over – it’s thrilling and it’s scary and it’s one hell of a ride. Except, I want you …

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You Remind Me: People who remind us of our loved ones

Last night I watched ABC’s special “The Untold Story of ‘The Sound of Music.’” I stopped on the special because I thought it would be a harmless and happy break from the murder and deception of HBO’s, The Jinx, which I had just finished watching. I was wrong. Remember when we told you that grief triggers tend to pop up …

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The Role of the Acute Stress Response in Grief

I want you to think about the worst moment of your life.  When was it?   What was happening?  Personally, I can think of two. When I found out my mother had terminal cancer. The morning my father called me at an abnormally early hour to tell me my older brother had been in a …

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The Unprecedented Nature of Individual Grief: Trading answers for understanding

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard someone say they like ambiguity, I’d be pretty broke. Studies show that making ambiguous decisions (based on little or conflicting evidence) actually activates areas of the brain associated with processing fear and emotion; thus proving that fear of the unknown is more than just an ominous …

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8 Reasons why Winter is the Worst (for grievers)

What’s cold, icy, really uncomfortable, and sometimes makes you sad? Gosh darn winter, that’s what. You can spare me your affinity for skiing, fresh fallen snow and curling up by a warm fire because I will swiftly counter with wet socks, slush, and lack of sunlight.   Sure winter has its moments, but for some its …

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Understanding Avoidance in Grief

Avoidance is an important concept for grievers to understand.  Some of you may remember we briefly touched on this subject when we discussed avoidance coping vs. taking a break from grief.  Although this post made an important distinction, it didn’t seek to explain avoidance and the ways in which this type of coping might impact one’s experience and behavior …