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Understanding Avoidance in Grief

Avoidance is an important concept for grievers to understand.  Some of you may remember we briefly touched on this subject when we discussed avoidance coping vs. taking a break from grief.  Although this post made an important distinction, it didn’t seek to explain avoidance and the ways in which this type of coping might impact one’s experience and behavior …

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No One is Alone

I’ve been mulling over the idea that no one is alone. It’s a belief I aspire to, but not a truth I can recognize in the context of my every day life. With 2 children, a husband, a father, 5 brothers and sisters, friends, and an extended network of family, my support system seems like …

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Parenting While Grieving

When it comes to parenting, humans are a protective bunch. I feel qualified to say this as I am the mother of two young girls who I would shield with my life. Call me anxious but I have lay awake many a night playing out disaster scenarios in my head; trying to decide how I …

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When Grief Changes Our Priorities (aka should I join a commune?)

I have this very vivid memory of sitting in the lobby of my college dorm talking to my boyfriend at the time about my decision to quit college.  In my mind it was so clear at the time – life was too short to spend in a classroom, I couldn’t relate to other college students …

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Grief and Getting a Good Night’s Sleep

When my 5-year-old daughter is tired it’s obvious to everyone but her. As far as she’s concerned, everything is awful.   Nothing pleases her and nothing can possibly make her feel better. Confusingly she pushes everyone away while at the same time wanting to be coddled and let me tell you, holding her when she’s cranky is …

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Grief Triggers and Positive Memory: A Continuum

Central New York, where I grew up, overachieves when it comes to cold weather seasons.   I won’t even get started on winter, but I will take a few moments to ruminate on fall. As soon as the calendar hits September the air grows cool and the green trees of summer blossom into vibrant orange, red …