Grief Makes You Crazy

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When Grief Changes Our Priorities (aka should I join a commune?)

I have this very vivid memory of sitting in the lobby of my college dorm talking to my boyfriend at the time about my decision to quit college.  In my mind it was so clear at the time – life was too short to spend in a classroom, I couldn’t relate to other college students …

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Grief and Getting a Good Night’s Sleep

When my 5-year-old daughter is tired it’s obvious to everyone but her. As far as she’s concerned, everything is awful.   Nothing pleases her and nothing can possibly make her feel better. Confusingly she pushes everyone away while at the same time wanting to be coddled and let me tell you, holding her when she’s cranky is …

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Grief Triggers and Positive Memory: A Continuum

Central New York, where I grew up, overachieves when it comes to cold weather seasons.   I won’t even get started on winter, but I will take a few moments to ruminate on fall. As soon as the calendar hits September the air grows cool and the green trees of summer blossom into vibrant orange, red …

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Grief and Loneliness

10 signs you’ve been spending too much time alone: 1.  Your laundry basket is filled with a soft pile of sweatshirts, oversized t-shirts and elastic waist pants. 2.  The sound of your phone’s ringtone evokes the same fight or flight response as the sound of a really loud fire alarm. 3.  You’ve been carrying on odd …

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Small Remembrances and Expressions of Love

When it comes to expressions of love the largest common denominator is the act of loving, the rest is just a matter of person and preference. Love comes wrapped up in little boxes or giant packages; tenderly whispered or declared from the rooftops; eloquently written or in fumbling awkward utterances. The prose of love may …

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Grief, Emotion & Major Life Decisions

I should start out by saying this post is not about some disastrous decision I made while grieving, so don’t expect the story to end in a smoking pile of wreckage. Excuse the spoiler, but it actually ends with a sweet smelling chubby cheeked bundle of wonderful. Most decisions – good, bad, hasty, or impulsive …