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64 Quotes About Grief, Coping and Life After Loss

A good quote serves many purposes.  A quote helps us put our own thoughts and feelings into perspective, it allows us to use the words of others to communicate or to convey a message, and it helps us to feel a sense of commonality when we find our feelings, experiences and observations match those of another.

Although we love a good grief quote, Litsa and I were slow to join in on the quote-pic phenomenon.  The Internet just seemed plastered with inspirational platitudes pasted on pictures of sunsets and rainbows. It all seemed so trite and reductive we decided not to add to the noise.  Then we got over ourselves.  

Here are 64 (Shhh! There are really 58) quotes about grief, coping and life after loss.  In going through these I realized it’s hard to tell how a handful of these would be considered grief-related; I guess you’ll just have to take our word for it.  Feel free to steal and share any of these images.

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Genevieve

Posted on February 10, 2015 at 5:32 pm

Thanks for these quotes – I’m crying now.
I lost my husband from a mountain accident last May – he fell down a steep slope, in the snow. I met a nice man some time ago – he’s in love with me, I’m not sure if I’m ready yet. Last week he was holding me and I started crying. He told me “your tears are my tears”. I doubted he could understand me. Now reading the quote about “what separates us from the chaos is our ability to mourn people we’ve never met” I started crying again. I feel it’s spot-on, I feel I should start trusting him. My pain is so deep, can it be shared by somebody who never met my husband?
Thanks so much for your posts.
Genevieve

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Holly

Posted on February 23, 2016 at 10:33 pm

Hello I read your post and it touched me. I volunteer at a bereavement center, and I have have worked with a widows group, the one thing they all had in common was they felt like they were cursed. What you are feeling is the grieving process and you should never deny yourself any part of the process. It sounds like you have found yourself a good man. Try not to look at it as replacing your husband but more like another chapter in your life. You have plenty of room in your heart to love the one you lost and the one you found. Try to find yourself a new normal, keep your husband in your heart and trust that he would want you to be happy, and don’t rush the grieving process. God bless…….

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Tayler

Posted on August 20, 2016 at 7:36 pm

I am so sorry for your loss, your post actually made me cry more than these quotes did, I hope you could open your heart to the man you referred to in your post. I am starting to understand loss but only slowly, my father is dying, last he had heard his doctor said his kidneys were only at seven percent function, if I were older I could donate my kidney and help. I was writing my college essay about maturity and how loss contributes to it and looking up quotes for it, I probably won’t use any of these, but thank you for your post, it helped me see that grief may always be present in a persons heart but it doesn’t have to be the only feeling. I am so sorry for what happened to your husband, thank you for being brave enough to share your story.

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Genevieve

Posted on August 23, 2016 at 1:38 pm

Thank you for your post on my post… Two years after my husband’s accident I am still on my way, with ups and downs. The man I was referring to is still around and still in love with me but I am not fully ready yet, still need a lot of time on my own or with friends, trying to sort my internal mess out. Yes lots of feelings can co-exist, some time I even feel I am just free! Then the loneliness and sadness reappear. I learned a lot during this process, I learned we are all grievers and all coping. I learned to catch any ray of light.
I wish Peace to you and your father.

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hdb

Posted on March 22, 2017 at 7:02 pm

God gives his toughest battles to his strongest warriors, sadness and pain do not last forever. He has blessed you with a man, a wonderful man that want all you, the good the bad and the broken. This man wants to be a part of your life, your tears are his tears and you happiness is his as well. I hope all goes well. God bless and let the chips lie where the fall

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Dee Randolph

Posted on February 11, 2015 at 11:33 am

Quotes are most helpful to the person responding to someone who is grieving (cards, remembrances), but as the person doing the greiving, they didn’t help me when I lost my child, parents, or spouse. The one person who could help me through grief was the one who was gone. How hard to loose one’s confidant.
Grieving is such a personal space. What helps one may not help another. Sometimes silence and recogntion that grief is a very hard travail are better than any quote or words. Let the person who is grieving tell her story. The most comforting words anyone ever said to me were, “I know this is a hard time for you.”

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Dianna

Posted on February 17, 2016 at 12:22 am

Thank you Dee Randolph. My beloved nephew died this week and the pain is very fresh. I feel grief but his father and mother have oceans upon oceans of grief. Thank you for sharing your story. I will keep your words in mind as we gather to mourn my nephew and comfort my brother and his family.

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Arla

Posted on February 22, 2016 at 5:42 am

I am so sorry for your loss. I found this page while looking for “the right words” as my beloved mother in law passed away yesterday morning.

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Lajla Abrams

Posted on August 26, 2016 at 7:16 pm

19 years after losing my 2 youngest children through a family murder/extended suicid, I am able to read through these quotes with ease and find the one that best describes my situation. Khalil Gibran kind of says it all for me. I am so very sorry for your loss. I do hope that one day you will find comfort and strength through other people who have been through a similar loss. Grief has no end …. It changes over time but does not end. It is very difficult to accept but that’s the bottom line.

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Doug Ebbert

Posted on March 24, 2015 at 8:18 pm

I always admired Thoreau’s comment,
“On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend’s life also, in our own, to the world.”

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Barb

Posted on July 12, 2015 at 2:20 pm

I too am crying, because so many of these are how I feel. It’s “only” been 10 months since I lost my husband, but the pain and loneliness are growing exponentially with each passing moment. Losing the only person that truly loved me has been difficult beyond measure. What I wouldn’t give for one more smile, one more hug, one more ” I love you more”.

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H Lacey

Posted on May 11, 2016 at 6:34 pm

I can understand what you are saying as I too suddenly lost my husband September 4th 2015. My 4 children and I are going through hell. One of my 8 yr old sons found him. I find every single day like groundhog day. Gutted feeling all the time. We function but I am unable to enjoy anything.
It certainly does matter what people say because some people think I am crying because I am a single parent now but that’s not it, it’s the fact that we loved each other and we didn’t choose to leave one another. Feel some people trivialise the children’s and my grief. Our hearts are broken…

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Vicki

Posted on August 7, 2015 at 2:09 pm

I like what Stephen King said in his book ‘Revival.’ After the scene in which the reverend’s 6-y.o son gets hit by a car and dies. The reverend becomes livid with anger and delivers a sermon that offends people in the town.
The main character’s father says to him “Reverend was right about one thing. People always want a reason for the bad things in life; sometimes there ain’t one.”
My daughter’s dad was killed on September 11. I’ve wondered why it happened ever since it occurred. I’ve wondered everything imaginable and asked myself questions that would probably sound silly reproduced on paper or online. I just asked myself one today. People used to tell me it was “part of God’s Will” and other things. I won’t believe any of it since reading what Stephen King said: “People always want a reason for the bad things that happen; sometimes there ain’t one.”
People may think that’s cold comfort but I find it more consoling to hear that than “it was God’s will.” That sounds and feels barbaric to me.

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Geeta

Posted on July 12, 2016 at 10:06 am

Superb

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Katy

Posted on February 10, 2016 at 2:40 pm

My grief is almost 4 months old and it still feels like yesterday. I have never known sadness like this. I lost the man I love. He came into my life 4 years after I separated from and divorced my husband of 32 years. He made me laugh! I couldn’t believe how good it felt to truly laugh with someone other than my friends, children and grandchildren. I miss him so much and I carry so much guilt. Guilt for not knowing he had heart problems, guilt for not being there when he died, guilt for every time we argued and I didn’t let it go. Guilt for not saying I love you the night before he died. I want that “one more day, one more conversation.” I begged for it and it didn’t happen. He didn’t come back. I love him and I miss him so much. The grief hurts so badly.

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Marie

Posted on February 27, 2016 at 10:46 pm

I can so relate to you, Katy. I lost my Ben 6 months ago. We were both widowed and our first marriages were not very happy ones. Ben and I were together seven years and married four of those years. We were define soul mates. Thanks for sharing.

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Las Fowler

Posted on November 30, 2016 at 8:03 pm

I was married to my wonderful husband for 53 years, he was such a caring man. We had one son & it has been one year now & it is so hard. Mom is in skilled nursing & I help her so much but totally miss my husband so much, make it through the days but evenings hurt so bad, I feel I have a hole in my heart.

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Elizabeth

Posted on February 20, 2017 at 7:20 pm

Katy, I can relate. I lost my husband and soulmate 4 months ago too (10/17/16). My grief seems unbearable sometimes. The one quote that I can relate to best is the one that says, “Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” Edna St. Vincent Miley

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N Augustin Susan

Posted on April 14, 2016 at 12:52 pm

I lost my mom 7 years ago.. guilt for everytime we argued and being selfish too.. guilt for not knowing how much she really loved me more than herself. Guilt for not doing anything when she was sad and lonely. Mom, I miss you so much and I’m sorry for not being a good girl for you..

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Kathryn

Posted on April 15, 2016 at 2:01 pm

My husband died very suddenly on our honeymoon 11 months ago We had both been married before but had been together for 19 years and our wedding was the happiest day of my life! He died 3 weeks and 1 day after our wedding and I miss him so much . It would have been our 1st anniversay in 2 weeks ! He was my rock and the love of my life and I so need him to help me deal with the pain. He always sorted everything !! I so believe that it is only people who have experienced this pain who can truly understand about the journey on the road we don’t want to be on to a place we don’t want to go ! I do get comfort from reading of others in the same position and I wish comfort and happiness eventually for the future to us all !

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Kath

Posted on April 21, 2016 at 2:35 am

This is from MUCH ADO ABOUT NOTHING, by William Shakespeare …

But there is no such man; for, brother, men
Can counsel and speak comfort to that grief
Which they themselves not feel; but, tasting it, 25
Their counsel turns to passion, which before
Would give preceptial medicine to rage,
Fetter strong madness in a silken thread,
Charm ache with air and agony with words.
No, no; ’tis all men’s office to speak patience 30
To those that wring under the load of sorrow,
But no man’s virtue nor sufficiency
To be so moral when he shall endure
The like himself. Therefore give me no counsel:
My griefs cry louder than advertisement. 35
Ant. Therein do men from children nothing differ.
Leon. I pray thee, peace! I will be flesh and blood;
For there was never yet philosopher
That could endure the toothache patiently,

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Asare

Posted on May 20, 2016 at 7:05 am

Have lost a great Friend who is so dear to my heart,Henrietta Tetteh, I love you though we were not Kent to be together,but I know you are resting in the blossom of the Almighty God

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Shubham Chaturvedi

Posted on June 18, 2016 at 5:52 pm

RIP Suraj. luv u. 😔 live forever in my heart my friend.

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peggy ruby edwards

Posted on June 25, 2016 at 8:45 pm

Cassie, I always thought we would get a few more vacations in before one of us had to go first. . I miss you every day, almost every minute. I had forgotten how much a person can cry. You were and always will be my most loved sister. I do know I’ll see you again, but how do I make it until then.? You are gone for now but not forever. I’ll see you again. Enjoy your blessed life living with our Jesus. Until then, I’ll do my best to enjoy the life I have here. We’ll have so much to talk about In Heaven. Can’t say anymore now because I can’t see the keyboard from crying
.I love,love love you. “Iodine”

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Litsa

Posted on June 25, 2016 at 11:10 pm

<3 Many good thoughts Peggy . . .

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Rose

Posted on July 24, 2016 at 4:51 am

Thank you for the quotes. My husband died on May 27, 2016. I miss him so. We still made each other laugh after 16 plus years of marriage. We were often thinking about the same things. Even though he had ALS and we knew he did not have much time. His death was sudden. I felt like I was awake and in a nightmare. I was totally unprepared for his death. What brings me comfort is knowing I was able to care for him at home. He wanted to stay home. Knowing he is not suffering helps me get through the day. Knowing my husband would not want me to let my grief consume me helps and prayer throughout the day.

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bkb

Posted on August 3, 2016 at 1:01 pm

Thank you for the quotes — My father died this morning and we were estranged on and off for years. He was not a nice person – to anyone and , as I explained to my 7 year old – he did not want to be a daddy. Which makes it harder since my husband has terminal cancer. Still grieving what I wished my father could have been and grieving in advance for my daughter who will lose her daddy in the near future. My father drank himself to death – and my husband is fighting every day to stay here…

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Mil

Posted on March 19, 2017 at 9:39 am

I am sorry for your loss and what you are going through. I hope for you and your daughter to have the strength to carry on.

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Cate M

Posted on August 12, 2016 at 11:30 pm

Dear bkb,
I’m so saddened to hear of your husband cancer. I’m sure you’re daughter well always remember how much her daddy fought to stay with you both. Sorry on the loss of your dad and all the ways you wish it was different,

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Clemberly

Posted on September 2, 2016 at 4:34 pm

Thanks for these quotes. I lost my father 3 weeks ago and I’m just starting to understand my grief and where it will take me…

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Jude Hersey

Posted on September 4, 2016 at 8:00 pm

I lost my cherished husband May 30, 2016 after knowing each other for almost 60 years. That was still not enough time. He took a part of my heart with him and I hope it keeps him at peace finally. Cancer took him away…

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Jeanne Frye

Posted on September 30, 2016 at 3:05 pm

I am just a mom, just a mom who lost her son almost two years ago. He was only 30 when he passed over. My heart broke that day. I have never recovered. Oh, I get up every day. I go to work. I put on my make up. I talk to people. I smile. I tell everyone I am ok. I lie. I still cry everyday. I imagine I always will. I grieve deeply, because I loved him deeply. I just plain miss my boy. I look at the front door and just can not conceive of the fact that he won’t come bouncing through, “hey, mom!”….Never again? Really?
So, I go about my day….I have good memories. I have my other son, Joe and my grand daughter and love them both of course. But one does not replace another. There is a hole in my heart. My son Ryan died of an overdose which makes it even harder to deal with, there is guilt, did I do enough, did I intervene quick enough……Our last time together he was best man at his brothers wedding. We had a great time! Exactly one month later he was gone. He had been clean and relapsed. I have learned a lot bout the disease of addiction since then. I wish I had done more, I know Ryan forgives, I know God forgives me. Not sure I will ever forgive myself. After all, I am just a mom….Take care all….Always and forever Ryan P Frye’s Mom! visit him at Ryan P Frye Virtual Memorial

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sandi

Posted on December 2, 2016 at 3:26 am

Hi Jeanne
I know your pain; I lost my son almost two years ago, also. Unexpected; he was killed; we had to say a post-goodbye at a funeral home on Christmas Eve because the DIL……it – the loss of an adult child is so horrific; not only did we lose our son but we lost our friend, who had become our peer. I know your feelings of guilt; I have so many “if only, then maybe…” – and that’s hell. With the loss of my son went also a total loss of my belief system. But I guess there is some comfort, because I am no longer afraid of dying myself, just in case there is an After. I’ve lost friends because I don’t always handle my grief well; can’t always anticipate when its going to punch me between the eyes again. But your post has given me a comfort, knowing that another knows. Is that wierd? Its not meant mean. Anyway, thanks for your post; I get you.

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Linda Banks

Posted on November 16, 2016 at 6:42 pm

My darling mom passed away 9 days ago and wondering how i can ever smile again. It is so hard to try and get on with your life.I am an adult have grown daughters of my own and trying to strong is so difficult. Mom is the first person to kiss you. I just miss her terribly.

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Bill F

Posted on December 11, 2016 at 11:44 am

I happened upon this site while looking for some kind of inspiration to keep going on. I lost my wife of 12 years 6 years and 5 months ago. I go about my days and try to do the things she would have wanted me to do, but I feel like it’s pretty pointless and feel hollow inside. This grief bit isn’t for the weak at heart. The words of Keanu Reeves have helped me many times when I feel overwhelmed:
“Grief changes shape, but it never ends.
People have a misconception that you can deal with it and say, ‘It’s gone, and I’m better’.
They’re wrong. When the people you love are gone, you’re alone.
I miss being a part of their lives and them being part of mine.
I wonder what the present would be like if they were here – what we might have done together.
I miss all the great things that will never be,”

I miss you D.

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